What Not to Say to Pregnant Women (Not Just Common Sense)

I have seen quite a few blogs out there of what not to say to a new mom etc. I just haven't seen one (or searched very hard) for one on what not to say to pregnant women. It seems pretty obvious, right? You would think so. I'm now 21 weeks with our first little girl and my hormones are literally out of control... sometimes. You know how it goes. Through the past few months there have been a few things I've encountered that no one should ever say to a pregnant woman. Maybe it's common sense, maybe it's just my hormones, but if your friend/sister/wife/aunt/niece's hormones are as nutso as mine, keep these things in mind. (I wrote mine in order of least annoying to the most annoying... in my case.)

Do not:

4.  Offer advice unless it's requested. I haven't received this as often as I thought I would (thank you everyone I've come in contact with). Chances are your pregnant friend is already receiving a ridiculous amount of advice from everyone who knows someone who has had a child. If the mommy & daddy-to-be want your advice on something... don't worry... they'll ask! (once again, thank you family & friends from refraining thus-far).


3. Never say "I told you so". At our gender reveal party, my husband and I were certain we were having a boy. However, pink balloons came out of the big box! Luckily, my friends hosting the party told everyone to stay away from saying "I told you so" as it might unleash a Godzilla-sized amount of hormones I like to call "Pregzilla". (Hey, at least I'm honest that I'm not sane while pregnant). Telling anyone "I told you so" about anything is generally not a good idea, but add in someone who knows they have to gain weight and grow a human over the next 9 months... that's an EXTRA bad idea.

2. Don't even consider saying "I was never that big. Even when I was ___ weeks along". You would think no person who has experienced pregnancy would say this, but it has happened to me... and I'm measuring small. That's like saying "Your kid is 6? Wow! My kid isn't that fat and she's 12!" Maybe not the exact same, but you get the point.

1. Drum roll please... my least favorite of all... "Just Wait". I've heard this one a TON. It's not that it's rude or offensive, but the phrase "just wait" makes my hormonal self feel like what I'm going through is nothing, it's not exciting and that there are better things to come. It makes it seem like you know everything (although you do not intend it to come across as such) and that where I'm at is invalid. I want to experience every little thing about my pregnancy and yes, I'm looking forward to the future with our little girl, but we're not there yet... so chill.

So what can you say to your pregnant friend/sister/aunt/niece/whomever? Anything nice that you can think of! Compliments are appreciated, saying how awesome we look, how much you love our name selections... humor us and suck up to us for 9 months :)

What have you heard while you've been on your 9 month journey?

***This article was NOT directed at anyone. So please, friends & family, do NOT think I wrote this because of you, and do not be offended. It's supposed to be humorous to pregnant women. To help them feel support and like they're not alone.***

Our awesome friend, Brandy Rupert, set up a photo booth at our gender reveal party!
Thanks to everyone who planned it and kept the gender a secret so well! Thanks to the family who drove
to the party as well. We appreciated having everyone there.